July 22, 2009 by admin

How to Become the Most Interesting Conversationalist Around




Are you intimidated by the thought of trying to carry on a conversation, and even more afraid of being seen as boring or unoriginal?

Have you ever frozen up in the middle of a conversation, not knowing what to say next?

Do you feel that no one is listening to you when you’re speaking to them?

If you can identify with any of the above statements, keep reading, as becoming an interesting conversationalist is extremely easy.

No, you don’t have to have anything interesting to say, you don’t have to be funny or the life of the party, and you don’t have to be extremely outgoing (although all of those things can help).

Even if you can’t initiate a conversation very well, if you can ask someone the right questions, you’ll become known as one of the best and most interesting conversationalists around.

Well then, if all that’s involved is being able to ask the right questions, it begs the very important question, “What are the right questions to ask?”

Glad you asked.

People absolutely love to talk about themselves, and therein lies the key to becoming an interesting conversationalist – learning to ask people questions about themselves.

After all, it’s a subject that they enjoy talking about and find interesting.

So all you need to do to carry on a great conversation that will be interesting for them is to ask them questions about themselves.

That will always get the ball rolling as far as conversation is concerned. Even if your introduction or the transition from your introduction into the conversation was a little awkward, they will absolutely love you for showing an interest in them, and giving them an opportunity to talk about themselves.

As you ask them questions about themselves, be on the lookout for any common interests that you may have with them, as this will open up an conversation that is of interest and a lot more relaxed and personal for both of you.

Asking them questions about themselves, their work, their kids, or their lives in general (be sure not to get too personal) will leave them thinking that you are the most interesting person in the world.

Once your conversation with them is finished, they will walk away with a great impression of you and will be looking forward to the next conversation the two of you will have.


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June 24, 2009 by admin

Sweet Things to Say to Your Girlfriend: 3 Sweet Lines to Make Your Girlfriend Love You More



Girls love hearing sweet things from their boyfriends. As a boyfriend, it is your duty to keep your girl happy and secure. To do this, you have to know what sweet things to say to your girlfriend to make her fall even more in love with you.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re just starting out, or have been in a relationship for years. What matters is that you always shower your girlfriend with romantic compliments that melt her heart.

In fact, here are some sweet things to say to your girlfriend to help make you mean the world to her!

1) How did I get so lucky?

Of course, you just don’t say this as if you’re bewildered. One of the most important factors to consider when coming up with sweet things to say to your girlfriend is how you’re going to say it. This line, in particular, should be uttered with utmost affection.

2) I don’t think I can ever get enough of you.

Some girls might feel a little insecure ever now and then. These things come and go. As a sweet boyfriend, you should be able to make her realize that she doesn’t have to feel insecure.

3) I will always love you.

This can also be as direct and as simple as you want. This line is a favorite because it speaks of “I love you” on a whole new level. By saying these words, you’re pledging yourself to her, and there’s something universally romantic about that.

There are more sweet things to say to your girlfriend that you can figure out yourself as time goes by. Just remember to mean what you say and be sincere about it. Even the simplest words go a long way when said with true affection.


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May 10, 2009 by admin

Rejection – Why It Hurts and What To Do About The Pain



You can teach a child about life, about death, about good or bad, but teaching a child about rejection is something that many parents don’t put on their little darling’s educational calendar!

That’s too bad.

Rejection is a part of life, and dealing with rejection successfully is a valuable skill set which could mean the difference between failure and high achievement in life. Under any circumstance, rejection should never be taken personally

Women have a slight advantage when it comes to dealing with rejection. The opportunity to recognize, deal with and sort out rejection, is often mastered through “girl talk.” Women get together and vent their frustrations with men and feelings about their failed relationships to other females.

Women gain sympathetic support, are allowed to cry, explore their feelings without censure, and cheered when their friends rail against such “clueless assholes.”

Women leave such ego boosting gatherings feeling confident that it’s his loss and that she is a valuable, important person, a beautiful person, regardless of a man’s rejection.

How Men Deal With Rejection

Sadly, the male community does not offer the same types of sympathetic support system that women provide each other. For most men the fear of being seen as weak strikes terror into the deepest part of a man’s ego and thus forces him to often suffer in silence. Men are expected to “suck it up” and deal with the rejection without complaint “like a man should.” Crying about being rejected is out of the question.

When an emotionally out of touch man is rejected, his ego is what gets hurt. But when a man who is in touch with his emotions gets rejected, his whole soul hurts. He withdraws to lick his wounds and becomes hesitant to risk enduring such pain again. Getting on with his life and trying again then becomes a major challenge.

Other guys turn the anger and pain of their rejection outward. They will purposely mistreat (“dog”) women in a vain attempt to “get back” at the gender that they feel is responsible for his wounded broken heart. This man is often labeled a misogynist.

How to Move On From the Pain of Rejection

Men need to understand something that women have known for age… it is only when you have accepted that the pain of rejection needs attention and as such needs more than a quick leg over, a pint or three of beer or some silly and boyish antic, that you can start to address your own emotions and do so honestly.

It’s a lot like when someone stands up at an AA meeting and says “Hi, my name is XXX, and I am an alcoholic!”

Self Love is the Best Love

Mending broken hearts is never an easy job, when it hurts, it hurts like hell, no matter which gender you are. On the road to healing we first have to deal with the truth about how we really feel about why we were rejected and the person who rejected us. How do we feel about the rejection we experienced? Most of all how we really feel about ourselves?

Each of us must love our self more than we love any other. And just because someone whose steps have crossed our path doesn’t share our love of ourselves does not mean that each of us isn’t worth loving.

Some men and women seek “closure” when a relationship ends in disappointment. What I wish they could understand is that even if such a closing conversation with their rejecter did take place, it is unlikely that they would ever get the whole truth anyway. Most people are not only dishonest with others, but with themselves.

Few of us want to intentionally hurt others, so it’s safe to assume that whoever rejected you will most likely choose a method of rejection that causes them the least pain. Sadly this method might and probably will, be the way that causes you maximum discomfort.

Some will reject you to your face, but most will assume that you just know, that someone else will tell you, write to you, phone you. Letting you figure it out on your own may not be the kindest approach, but it is the path of least resistance and the route most often chosen.

However you were rejected and for whatever reason you were rejected, there are a few key steps to recovery. These steps won’t stop it from happening again but they will make you a better person for your experience.

#1 Allow your anger to surface. Preferably not towards the direction of your rejecter initially, but you should let the world know that you are in pain and that if they can constructively help, you welcome the assistance.

#2 Be kind to yourself even if you know you’re an asshole or bitch. You have to be honest, especially to yourself.

#3 You have to be prepared to accept that your rejecter might never know just how much they have hurt you, or want to know, or even care.

#4 You have to be prepared to feel the sting of rejection for some time.

#5 You have the right to be pissed off with those who say “you’ll get over it.”


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